Zahava Griss (Z, pronouns: They/Them) is a dancer, kink educator for social change, coach, and author. Z directs Do Good Things with Power, a leadership immersion for facilitators transforming our culture around intimacy. Z is a contributing author to Queer Magic: Power Beyond Boundaries and Sacred Body Wisdom with a chapter on “Transforming the Culture of Whiteness in Dance and Sexuality Communities.” Z tours performance, workshops, and erotic grief rituals across the U.S. and Europe. Z directed Spiritual Nourishment for Conscious Activism in collaboration with Deepak Chopra. Z has been listening to, speaking in, and facilitating spaces to transform white privilege since 1999, including work with the People’s Institute for Survival and Beyond, Sarah Lawrence College, White Folks Soul By Any Dance Necessary and the national White Privilege Conference. Learn more and join the newsletter for upcoming events at

8 Things to Share When Creating an Intimate Interaction in Community

So you have a crush… a can we dance….I mean trail my lips over you dance…. I mean I love what you shared in class and want to get to know you more dance…. I mean I’m new to exploring (insert the thing you really want to try) and I want to know if you’ll explore it with me dance. Oh yes, and we’re in a community of friends and lovers and partnerships. We’re in a tribe that’s been evolving over the years and will continue to. I don’t want to make a mess. What do I say? Sound familiar? You are not alone. This class covers 8 specific things to consider for yourself and to communicate with someone you like. This is a way to share your desires, your limits, and express your value for existing relationships. Regardless of if you chose to play together from here, simply having this conversation can create a lot of connection, compassion, and trust. You will have the opportunity to pair up and practice!

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Ritual of Grief & Eros:
Belonging in Village

(Co-facilitated w/ Kaitlin June)

Join us for this opportunity to transform how you hold what’s most important to you. This ritual invites you to embody and voice grief, pain, disappointment and loss so there is more spaciousness, compassion, and clarity to take the next action. We are inspired by Sobonfu Some’s grief rituals of the Dagara Tribe in Burkina Faso. Sobonfu reminds us, “Making the world a sustainable place is deeply connected to our ability to grieve together, because this is what creates sustainability for the human soul.” We draw on the wisdom of this culture to experience the village and a deep sense of belonging even in our discomfort.

This ritual is not just about emotional expression, it is about being a village that loves unconditionally and honors our past and future ancestors. Come allow what is yearning to move through you to open you more deeply to the fullness of your life. The person grieving can initiate if and how they want to be touched (including erotic touch). This space can be a powerful opportunity to deepen a relationship or a supportive space to invite a new connection.

Note: This is a 4.5 hour ritual with a closed container (meaning no entering in the middle)